Mudita Rastogi, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist in Arlington Heights, Ill, advises:
“Your interests, opinions, and experiences can change as you grow. But if you share the same core belief systems, you will have a platform from which to build a strong relationship.”
Yet, remember to respect each other and give your partner the freedom s/he needs:
“We are all multifaceted, complex creatures. Your partner will never be able to match all your needs and interests. It is OK to pursue some separate activities, either individually, or with friends, apart from your partner.”
Furthermore, Meredith Hansen, Psy.D, a clinical psychologist who specializes in couples, premarital and newlywed counseling, maintains:
“Knowing what you both want out of life and working together to make those dreams a reality will strengthen the bond in your marriage. “
Mark E. Sharp, Ph.D., a psychologist in private practice who specializes in relationship issues, says:
“Long lasting true love is when two people make a commitment to each other and choose to act in ways that sustain their feelings for each other and their connection to each other over time.”
The following story was an example of such love that lasted for seven decades, and it will definitely melt your heart:
While they were studying in Philadelphia, Preble Staver, who was born on October 17, 1921, and Isabell Whitney, born on October 31 of the same year, met on a blind date. Since day one, these two youngsters knew that they are destined to go through life hand by hand.
When the United States entered the Second World War, they both decided to sign up. While Preble joined as a Marine and ended up receiving a Bronze Star, Isabell was a Navy nurse in Maryland. Five months after the end of the war, they reunited and married on February 15, 1946.
Their life was full of love and joy, and they were both determined to cope with all difficulties together. After the war, Preble worked as a lobbyist and banker, so they had to move a lot around U.S. places, including Virginia, Florida, and South Carolina.
According to one of their five children, the 63-year-old Laurie Staver Clinton, Preble was “a tall, outgoing man with a strong, ‘larger than life’ personality” and Isabell was described as“[her] heart” and someone who “taught [her] how to be a kind person, how to be a compassionate person.”